... the FACTS 
 
Resides: Staten Island, NY 
 
Birth date: 8-4-75
 
Sign: Leo 
 
Height: 5'2"
 
Weight: 104 lbs.
 
Hair: Brunette (for now anyway!)
 
Eyes: Green
 
Family: 3 brothers and 1 sister
 
Status: Divorced 
 
Children: Yes, two boys (3, 6) not living at home 
 
Occasional smoker
 
Education: Bachelor's Degree - psychology 
 
Occupation: Legal Secretary. 
 
... on HERSELF
 
Best qualities: "I always find a reason to smile even in tough times. My strength, integrity and the drive to persevere are why I get up in the morning." 
 
Weaknesses: "A man in a towel? Ha! My trusting nature has gotten me burned more than a few times. So I'm learning to be a little cautious now."
 
Others may not see: "My fragility. On the outside I'm confident and self assured. On the inside I'm just as scared as the next person."
 
I've been known to ... "pack my things, jump in a car and drive to Miami just to start my life over. And I did this without knowing a single soul in Florida. It was the most free I've ever felt." 
 
Interests: "I've been trying to improve my golf game. So you'll see me at countless driving ranges! I love to write and I'm hoping to get published someday soon. I go to basketball and baseball games mostly because I love the whole excitement of the crowd. Basically, I like to be with people. Whether it's at Starbucks with my book or in a stadium with thousands of screaming fans, I'm in my element."
 
Turn ons: "A man who cooks! True thoughtfulness does it for me. It doesn't need to cost a fortune to make me feel special. A single flower, opening a door, a random kiss or even a special glance is all it takes to win me over." 
 
Turn offs: "Laziness. Conceit. Lack of confidence. It's OK to be a LITTLE jealous, but when it goes overboard, I'm GONE!"
 
Special Talents: "Can I put that? (Kidding!) I'm a little contractor at heart! I just love to fix things. I know people by name at Home Depot. I have installed lighting fixtures, sinks with vanities and tiled floors. Don't even get me started with demolition!! Other than that, I can make the best Penne Vodka this side of Brooklyn."
 
Awards: "I won my first writing award in the fourth grade!" 
 
Charities: "I volunteered with the Rosarian Society at St. Bernadette's in Brooklyn. I also taught creative movement classes for three and four year olds just because I though it would be fun for them (and me too!)."
 
15 minutes of fame: "I was on the show Classmates, where I met a brother and sister I didn't know existed for 27 years. Coolest experience EVER!"
 
Travels: "Besides running off to Florida, I been to Bermuda, Bahamas, Cayman Islands, California, Tuscaloosa, AL, Boston, MA, Vermont and New Mexico."

Spirituality: "I had converted to Catholicism because my sons where baptized catholic and I figured I better know what I'm going to teach them. My ex and his family are all strict Catholics and me being the only one with no "religion" was kinda a sore spot. After all was said and done, I'm glad I did it. Do I attend Mass each Sunday? No."
 
Fashion sense: "Stylin' baby! Yes, I'm one of THOSE girls! I can't go to the market without lip gloss and sunglasses. I like to be incognito! I really do care about my overall appearance and it shows. I have a serious affliction for three things, purses, shoes and matching underwear!"
 
Staying healthy: "I was a personal trainer part time while I was taking care of my boys. I had my sons by day and saw my clients at night. I'm pretty lucky though, I never have had to kill myself to stay in shape. I minored in Classical Ballet in college and I still find myself doing plies in the kitchen!"
 
What touches my soul: "A person who listens, REALLY listens. It's hard to answer this, because other than my sons who touch my soul everyday, I haven't found a man (yet) to do so. Although when I put on Andrea Bocelli, it moves me considerably!"
 
... on MEN 
 
Attention-getters: "Don't be shy! Don't let me walk by and say NOTHING! Seize the moment and yes, you can use a cheesy one liner if you have to! A man who goes after what he wants, is ONE HOT MAN!"
 
Ideal man: "Tall, dark and handsome. Too cliche? But I'm serious! I have a thing for tall men who happen to be tan and fit." 
 
I can't resist a man who ... "has nice teeth! It makes me want to jump up to kiss him. I can't resist a man who treats me like a lady and lets me be myself."
 
Ideal date: "A little Bistro, some Barolo, candles and a kiss so hot that makes me wonder about asking you in. (but I won't!)"
 
What makes me want to see a man again after a first date: "I'll see him again if he doesn't EXPECT to get laid. The focus should be on us getting to know each other on the first couple of dates. If the chemistry is there with our clothes on, just imagine how it would be with them off. Oh Baby!"
 
I would never date a man who ... "is rude or disrespectful to his mother or sister. I also check out how you act toward waitresses." 
 
How I show I care: "No mystery here, I'll tell you flat out. I may go out and buy token gifts for no reason, I'll cook your favorite dinner, maybe give you a massage and whisper in your ear how great I think you are."
 
What makes a man unforgettable: "His kiss and that incredible way a man smells!"
 
One thing a man has never done for me: "Sacrifice or risk anything, simply because he loved me."
 
... on RELATIONSHIPS 
 
On marriage: "I've had one failed marriage and I don't plan on having another. I got married young and for the wrong reasons. But we have sons, and for them we are civil. I want to get married again someday. It won't be anything I will enter into lightly. I'm not bitter or regret getting married. Quite the opposite. I'm acutely aware of what I am REALLY looking for now and I absolutely will not settle. A mutual respect for each other is what will solidify a relationship for life."
 
Top relationship keys: "If you don't have trust, than there is nothing. I have learned that you cannot truly love until you are vulnerable enough to trust completely. Another key is chemistry. You just can't fake that! And it's more than sexual chemistry because something has to sustain you when your sick with the flu. There is nothing nicer than to look across the table and know that he just "gets me" for no rhyme or reason. It's chemistry."
 
A man in a relationship with me can expect ... "a pain in the ass! (nah!). A truly thoughtful, honest woman. I'm a great care taker without having to be asked or to feel like it is my duty. I will not be your mother! Because let's face it, we never appreciated mom and all she's done and sacrificed for us. And she was fine with that. Now if you don't appreciate me when I have gone out of my way for you, you just will not be "gettin any" later! And mom can't help you with that! I'm a passionate, funny, spontaneous women who likes to have fun."
 
What I expect: "A man to not make me cry." 
 
When I'm in love, I ... "fall hard and fast. I'm very honest with my feelings. I tend to lead with my heart and not my head. And I wouldn't want to change that either. Love is something I'm willing to risk anything for. To keep it bottled up is really a disservice for both of us." 
 
What makes me feel close to a man: "It's really the little things that you notice or do. More of a special intimacy, I suppose. Look in my eyes or hold my hand. If you see I'm cold, you'd grab me your sweater to put on. Honesty is what brings a couple closer than sex can. (Yes, it's true!). It's real easy to have sex, but not always to be honest. A soulful connection is what makes me feel the closest to a man."
 
Greatest relationship lesson: "A friend once told me that you learn so much more when you listen, than when you speak. I'd have to say that the art of REALLY listening is what will make or break a relationship. I often found myself thinking about what I will say next, instead of paying attention to what was being said to me. I'm so glad that I'm aware of it now because it has made me a more attentive person."
 
... on SEX 
 
What makes sex good: "I'm up for any suggestions! I suppose I have been the aggressor for the most part. And that's OK. I am a take charge kinda woman after all. There is something to be said about having sex with reckless abandonment, but all the time? I'm still waiting to make love. I keep hearing about this truly magical experience that you'd never forget. Good sex is one thing, I'll hold out for GREAT sex any day!"
 
Most sensual part of a man's body" "His back and shoulders. There is nothing like a broad, strong man."
 
Sexiest thing a man can wear in private: "Ummm, me? (laughing!). A towel."  
 
Surefire to seduce me: "I'm all about romance. Look in to my eyes, touch my hair, be soft and sweet."
 
... on LIFE
 
Making my mark: "Somehow, someway,  I will show people it is OK to fight for what you deeply believe in. My mark on the world will be my book when it is completed and published." 
 
Responsibility to society: "My only responsibility to society is to raise two young boys into happy, healthy, strong, but sensitive men. It really is the toughest job I love the most."
 
Valuable life lesson: "Happiness is ONLY what you make it. If your waiting around for people to make you happy, your gonna be waiting a VERY long time." 
 
Three things I must do in this lifetime: "Find my soulmate, skydive, finish my book."
 
Best advice received: "It's not how you start, it's how you finish."
 
Best advice I've given a man: "Things happen for a reason, so be patient and things will work out." I don't know if he'd agree it's the BEST advice! At the very least it's optimistic!"
 
... on HER FAVORITE THINGS
 
Movie: "Pretty Woman, Shawshank Redemption."
 
TV Show: "Law and Order, Nip/Tuck, Curb your Enthusiasm, Six Feet Under."
 
Book: "How to talk to a Liberal, if you must. Anne Coultier."
 
Music: "Anything but country."
 
Food: "Shellfish, anything Italian, blueberry crumb cheesecake (real healthy, I know!)."
 
... final THOUGHTS
 
Wheels: "Black Trailblazer (the real BIG one)."
 
Tattoos/piercings: "I have a small tattoo about two inches below my belly button of a black eyed Susan and my belly button is pierced."

Always in my refrigerator: "Diet Coke, yogurt, left over Chinese, some sort of juice, French vanilla creamer. (Can you tell I'm never home?)."
 
Hottest possession: "My shoes!"
 
I would change places for 24 hours with ... "Jacqueline Kennedy (when she was alive, that is). Her strength to endure and raise her sons while maintaining grace and complete dignity is what I admire most."
 
I would most like to hang out with ... "my sister Tracy. She's in California and I'm in NYC." 
 
Celeb I'd love to go on a date with: "George Clooney because he is the most beautiful man alive! But if he were busy, I'd go out with Mark McGrath. There is some sexy quality about him ... I'd eat him with a spoon (lol)."
 
Why I'm such a great catch: "I'm strong, yet sensitive. And when you have my heart, it's yours forever."
 
Me in a word: "Friendly."